At one point in time or another, you must have been so manipulated by your partner without even knowing you are being manipulated. In which, that moment, your instincts tell you some certain things are not right either by the way your partner talks to you, handles situations in your relationship or reacts to things that pertain to you and the relationship.
In a Manipulative Relationship, your partner in so many ways acts in ways that are not helping your relationship grow. But still, you go out of your way to do simple things to please him/her just because you want to prove that you love your partner.
But come to think of it, does true love manipulate you into doing the things you don’t want to do? Or twists words and situations in order to make you look like the bad person and leave you hanging wondering in awe and feeling so unhappy about the dilemma you might have found yourself in.
At the moment, you might be in a Manipulative Relationship without even knowing you are. Hence, this piece is to help you identify the signs of a Manipulative Relationship.
1. Your partner demand you prove yourself.
True love should be shown effortlessly and happily. When in a healthy relationship, the love you and your partner feel, and have for each other will be shown in your acts and actions. And this comes naturally. It should not be a thing that needs to be forced. In which you go out of your way to buy your partner gifts because you can afford them. You spend quality time with them because you created the time. You do so much more within your capacity to make your partner feel loved and cared for. But when your partner now demands that you have to prove that you love them. Demanding you go out of your way making sacrifices way above your capabilities. It’s a sign of pure manipulation in your relationship.
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2. Your partner always blaming you when things go wrong.
Relationships have their ups and downs. With issues to sort out, and things to straighten out with love, patience, and understanding. This should involve you and your partner coming together and agreeing on ways in which the both of you can be better, and move your relationship in the right directions. But when issues arise, and your partner tends to manipulate the situation and always throws the blame at you without thinking of ways to better the situation. Then it’s a sign that you are in a Manipulative Relationship which is bad for your mental health and emotional well-being.
3. Your partner making you believe you are nothing without him/her.
Has your partner ever made you feel this way before, especially over a little misunderstanding? At that moment, your partner tends to make you feel you he/she is doing you a favor by dating you, or by being in a relationship with you. And they tell you all sort of awful things as to how miserable you will be without him/her. And your manipulative partner tends to mention all the things they may have done for you that you cannot get anywhere else.
Hence, keeping you bound to them. Brainwashing you into thinking you are truly nothing without your partner. Your partner does this to make you have a rethink in case you want to leave. Hence, keeping you bound to them. Which is so wrong!
4. Your partner wants to control who you hang out with.
When your partner starts having issues with almost everyone who you have as a friend. And starts saying awful things they don’t like about a certain friend of yours. This is not cool especially when you and this friend of yours tend to get along quite well before the relationship with your partner started. When this habit goes on for so long. Then it is a sign that you are in a Manipulative Relationship. Because your partner wants your friends to be who he/she chooses you to be friends with, and not who you want instead.
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5. Your partner feels you are mandated to do things for them.
One of the core values of a healthy relationship is being selfless. Like you going out of your way to do things for your partner. When doing this, it is important that you do it happily and selflessly. Because you want to make your partner feel loved by you, and increase the bond between the two of you without expecting so much or the same from your partner. This is because almost everyone tends to express love, and care in different ways.
But when it is the other way round in which your partner tends to demand you do things above your capabilities, trying to play mind games on you like; if you love me you will do this and that. When this happens often than normal, then it is also a strong sign and indication that you are in a Manipulative Relationship.
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6. In a manipulative relationship, you feel so afraid, and alone.
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What’s the point of being in a relationship when you don’t feel safe? Like you literally just want to escape and be free because deep down inside of you feel your partner is choking the life out of you. But you don’t know the best way to get out. When you feel this way often, it means you are in a Manipulative Relationship. And it’s not safe for your mental and emotional health in both the short and long run.
NOTE FOR YOU!
Does the above piece speak to you? Do you feel manipulated in your relationship? Then the best and first step is to talk to your partner about how you feel. And when he/her tends to twist the things you say, telling you it is your fault they treat ‘YOU‘ and behave the way they do. Then you have to find the courage to leave. What’s the point of being in a mental, emotional, and psychological bondage when you can be free, happy, and fulfilled? It absolutely makes no sense yeah?