Relationships are supposed to make you feel good. Relationships are not supposed to make you feel bad.” – Laura Bowers
There are certain things you do that often times ruins your nice and beloved Relationship if you don’t pay attention to them.
A lot of Relationships started off on a good, wonderful, and fun filled state.
But often times, the Relationship is ruined by some things done by either of the partner’s in the relationship.
Most of the time, a lot of people feel incompatibility is the major thing that makes partners who were once madly in love with each other, to want to part ways.
To become worn enemies and to pretend like their parts never crossed for once, and a whole lot more. But could this really be the major reason?
If it was, then have you ever thought why were you and your beloved partner, so madly in love in the first few months of your relationship? Those moments, in which you both cannot stay without seeing each other?
In which, you and your partner cannot stay a minute or an hour without checking on each other and calling each other via the different chats channels and through phone calls?
Then all of a sudden, some months down the line, when you both have gotten to know yourselves for who you truly are.
You both start experiencing some character changes in each other. Which now makes you feel so irritated with your partner and he/her with you.
And you cannot help it, but feel your once a beloved Relationship is going downhill, and you both are so confused on how to save it.
And you start asking yourself what could be wrong? What have you done wrong?
Was the fault you or your partner or there’s an external force bound to make you so unhappy and so unlucky when it comes to Romantic Relationships, etc?
Well, most romantic relationships that have survived the test of time. Asides the partners being compactible ie really understanding each other for who they are.
There are some other key essential things they had to also put in place inorder for the Relationship not to be ruined.
You might be wondering what could those things be? Well, they certainly had avoided some certain things that would either ruin their relationship either on the short or long run.
Therefore, this piece is to enlighten you on those things you do that would ruin your Relationship either on the short or long run.
Kindly read them carefully, and be very keen about avoiding them in your Relationship. And if you’re already doing a few or most of them, you need to put a stop to them today!!!
1. Always complaining.
Complaining is so terrible. You know the sound of a mosquitoe buzzing annoyingly around your ears when you are trying to catch some sleep?
That’s how your annoying complaint makes your partner feel. Complaining about every single thing is so draining to the point that it can make your partner have a mental breakdown.
Most men would say, women complain alot about this and that. Without also asking themselves if they complain as well? And also, if their complaint is less or more? For instance, as a man, you complaining about how your partner looks, about how she eats too much, etc.
Would make her feel you don’t appreciate her much. And if it’s also the other way round, your boyfriend/husband would also feel sad that you don’t appreciate the things they do for you, about how they look, etc.
Hence, this would put a smear in your relationship and make you two grow apart instead of bonding you guys closer together.
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2. Another thing you do that ruins your Relationship, is you hoarding wrongs.
Yeah, you must have heard a few peeps say, overlook things, not every wrong thing your partner does that should warrant you raising an eyebrow, etc.
Well, not everyone has such a trait. One thing with keeping of wrongs is, it makes you restless, and less free with your partner.
This is bad, and should never be allowed to linger on for so long. This greatly ruins your Relationship gradually.
Therefore, if your partner does things you don’t like, you can sit him or her down during their happy moments and talk to them about it.
Open up to your partner about anything they had done that is bothering you. That way your partner would know how the things he/she does is not cool with you. And would apologise, and try to make amends.
That way, you’re both at peace with each other, and you can go to bed each night happy about your relationship being healthy at least.
3. You ruin your Relationship, when you always make fun of your partner in front of others.
One of the worst and disrespectful thing you can ever do to your partner, is to make fun of their weaknesses in front of others.
This tears your partner apart on the inside. And makes him/her loose his/her self esteem and self worth whenever they are with you.
You may/might see it as something cool and so innocent. But mind you, others who are laughing with you to make fun of your partner, would not respect your partner.
And your partner won’t forgive you for making him/her look like a clown to be laughed at in front of others. This habit ruins your relationship, and should stop!!!
If at all, you and your partner want to make fun at each other, it’s best you make fun at each when you both are together. Rather than otherwise!
4. Incessant anger over little things ruins your Relationship as well
We all have the right to be angry yeah? But when it becomes incessant, it becomes toxic for your Relationship.
On the other hand, as the relationship goes on, not everything about your partner’s character would really please you. Like it once did in the initial stage of the Relationship.
But even at that, you can use calm and soothing words to replace your anger outburst instead of otherwise.
Yeah, most partners are annoying. Perharps yours is on the extreme end of annoying. Even at that, kindly have it at the back of your mind that, you both can’t be angry at the same time. Or else you might end up saying hurtful words you’re not supposed to say when you’re upset.
And this would in turn, make you and your partner, start feeling uncomfortable around each other, which is not cool. And this is a sign your relationship is gradually going downhills.
Therefore, learn to control your anger and endeavour to talk things over with your partner as earlier mentioned as often as you can.
5. Not taking good care of yourself anymore.
When you start doing this, it makes you look unattractive to your partner and it ruins your relationship over time.
What happened to those moments, you’d make your hair, smell nice, those moments in which you looked well groomed and breath taking?
Did you loose your groove on the things you are supposed to really focus on in your Relationship?
If you did at some point, then it’s time to take a break from the overwhelming things that is taking too much of your time, and focus on looking great again for the sake of your relationship.
And prevent it from going south and from being ruined further than it might be already.
6. You also ruin your relationship by reminding your partner of the wrongs done to you by them.
Nobody really likes anyone that goes about digging all the wrongs that has already been forgotten long ago by the offender.
It’s not a really nice thing to do, most especially to someone whom you say you love or you’re in a relationship with.
If you are of this habit, then be sure it will so ruin your Relationship on either the short or long run.
You partner who had offender you before now, and had perhaps apologized and forgotten about it.
When you keep bringing it up each time, and reminding your partner about it. It will make him/her feel unhappy, and feel you’re toxic to want to always smear them with their wrongs.
Learn to forgive. It’s hard yeah, but you’d free yourself from the bondage and shackle’s of hate and unforgiveness.
Hence, inorder to stop ruining your beloved Relationship, endeavor to let go of records of the wrongs done to you by your partner as often as you can.
That way, you’d feel free and be at peace with your inner self rather than otherwise.
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7. Being a chronic liar also ruins your Relationship.
Lying is so terrible. It makes your partner to loose trust in you. Your partner would always feel you’re not a reliable person.
And that you cannot even stand up and take responsibility for your actions. If you’re of this attitude, then it’s high time to go deep into the woods and bury it there forever.
The same way you formed the habit of lying, you can also declutter yourself and make up your mind to be honest to your partner about your deeds.
And if you know whatever you are into would hurt your partner, it’s best you don’t do or say it at all. Simply keep quiet if you don’t have any truth to say.
8. Another thing that ruins your Relationship, is you always wanting things to go your way.
One of the components of a healthy relationship, is compromising for your Relationship. Relationship has to do with partnership, which involves two individuals coming together to achieve a goal or an aim.
Therefore, if you always want things to go your way everytime. Without putting into consideration about what your partner thinks, about how he/she feels, then you’re being very selfish in your Relationship. And this can ruin your Relationship on the long run.
Because, your partner would feel how can I always sacrifice this and that for you and you can’t even assist me with the groceries, or go pick the kids from school. Or sacrifice a dime to buy me this and that?
And this would over time, put a strain in your relationship, which would lead to ruining your relationship.
9. You wanting to be too clingy to your partner also ruins your Relationship
Yeah, it’s good to be in love. Infact to be heels overly in love with your partner. It’s wonderful to want to go everywhere with your partner.
So that, everyone can see and know you and your partner are an item, and the power couple to be reckoned with. Which is so amazing!!!
But when this becomes too extreme, it becomes suffocating and choking. It becomes depressing, yeah! From the beginning, it might seem you and your partner are enjoying the whole vibes you two give to each other. But over time, it will gradually ruin your relationship.
In the sense that, it’s very paramount that you give your partner enough space as much as possible. Allow your partner to spend some time with their friends and other family members.
Make your partner feel free, to do things that would improve them and make them the best versions of themselves. Don’t be too clingy, it will only ruin your Relationship as time goes on
10. You telling everyone about your relationship business
Things are not always rosy in Relationships no doubt. But even at that, it’s not cool to go about telling everyone what’s up with you and your partner. This puts a strain in your Relationship. And in turn gradually ruins it.
If at all you need someone to talk to, during your confused moments, it’s best you talk to someone whom you know is not lousy or that would go about broadcasting all what you had told them to others in the hood.
Inorder not to ruin your Relationship, endeavour to keep your Relationship business as private as possible. That way, you won’t have those who are not happy about your relationship, having things in which they can feast on to talk about.
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