A Toxic partner comes with so much stress to deal with and all. There’s already enough stress from work, academics, business, family, perharps children, and other environmental factors one needs to cope with.
The stress becomes worse and so draining when you need to also put up with a toxic partner. Who is so bound by all means to bring you nothing but plenty of headaches and stress.
Being in a relationship, despite it not always being all rosy and smooth most of the times. Such rosy spikes and storms shouldn’t be caused by your partner.
Relationships are meant to help you blossom and glow in all aspects of your life, and not otherwise.
Hence, when your partner tends to always bring you down, with his or her toxicity. You should know sooner or later you would be drained if not completely crushed emotionally and mentally.
Below are the types of toxic partners you should avoid in a relationship, and the various ways to identify one;
1. The Rumour monger Toxic partner.
Isn’t it embrassing when you sit down to have a nice dinner with family and friends. And all your partner does is always coming up with untrue rumours about other people?
These rumours are never true about these sets of people they tend to talk about. But yet, they would just rattle on endlessly, even if someone is listening to them or not.
Kindly have it at the back of your mind that, if your partner is always fond of talking about other people to your face and that of your loves ones and family members. Without even minding their business and respecting themselves.
Be sure they would also talk ill about you and those you care about behind your back. Therefore, you should never allow this kind of toxic partner linger in your life for too long,they should be avoided at all cost.
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2. The Jealous Toxic partner.
Your partner should always endeavour to celebrate both your wins and victories. And also, they should love you in a healthy way, and not being possessive or obsessive about you.
Hence, when your partner starts feeling insecure about your Promotions, and advancement in your career and other achievements in other works of life.
When he/her tends to flare up and becomes aggressive when they see you hanging out with others who are mere casual friends, it because bad for your mental health.
It’s even worse when you endeavour to appreciate them and tell others they contributed to making you a better person. A jealous partner over time could ruin you on the long run out of jealousy if you’re not cautious enough. Hence ,this set of toxic partner should be avoided.
3. The Fault-finding Toxic partner.
This category of toxic partner brings nothing but emotional and mental drainess. How would you feel if all your partner does is never seeing anything good or great or superb in all you do?
Even when you try being romantic towards them, they feel and think you’re being old-fashioned, or not being sweet enough, and a whole lot more.
This kind of Fault-findings every now and then by your partner should never be allowed. Because you will always feel you’re not good enough, and would perform less of your potentials or expectations.
Therefore, avoid this type of toxic partner if you want to perform above what you should, and not anyone such as you partner talking you down always with their harsh ugly remarks.
4. The Accuser
These categories of toxic partner’s would never agree that they are wrong or should be held responsible for anything that goes wrong. They would certainly put all the blame on someone/something else.
This can be so unhealthy and draining. Therefore, if your partner belongs to this category of toxic partners, you should endeavour to move away quitely.
For their actions is not good for your mental health and well-being. Any responsible person should easily take responsibility for his or her actions. And not always finding who to lay the faults on.
5. The Leech
Most individuals go into Relationships for various different reasons. Some individuals, are due to what they stand to gain by being in the relationship. While only few wants a partner who truly love them for them, and nothing more.
Hence, having a toxic partner that is only after to suck the life out of your finances and any other tangible thing/s they feel is suckable, should be avoided.
A relationship should be a mutual agreement, whereby you both benefit and contribute some certain percentage in running the relationship smoothly.
If the order of the day by your partner is sucking you always and then leaving you so high and dry, you should avoid this type of toxic partner by taking to your heels.
6. The Self Centered Toxic partner.
How can a sane person love anyone who is so self centered?. This traits canbe so so annoying.
When you are in a relationship, and all your partner does almost 95% of the time is talk about him/herself. Without even giving you the opportunity to speak.
When your partner feels and thinks he/she is way too better and important,than you are.
And you are not even a match and all to who he/she is/does. They would always remind you, of how less of a person you are. How you are kind of a doormat to them,and what have you. Hence, making you loose yourself and your self worth.
You should never allow this kind of toxic partner come near you or overly be in the relationship with them for such a long time thinking they would change.
Have it at the back of your mind, that such self centered partners never change. It’s an inbuilt trait that is very hard to forgo. Hence you should avoid them as a plague
7. The Deceiver.
One of the key factors of a healthy relationship, is being honest with each other no matter what.
Therefore, if all your partner does is tell you one white lie or big lie after another every now and then. You should know they are toxic. And should be avoided at all cost by you.
No matter any deeds or offense committed, both yourself and your partner should sit down and think of ways to resolve it.
Not by covering up the deeds with multiple lies. This is toxic,and should be avoided in a relationship.
8. The Restraint
This category of partner’s just enjoys restraining you like a remote control. They would always want their own opinions and decisions to always be followed at all times without any objections.
Once you try to object they become more Restraint on you and your affairs. And try by all means to continue making you do their biddings.
These category of toxic partners would by all means be difficult, and would want you to be dependent on them for everything. Once they see you cannot cope without them, they try to make you stay in that position.
But you know what? You should never allow anyone, including your partner make you less of who you are by restraining you and turning you into a doormat.
Hence, you should strive by all possible means, to stand your grounds and not allow your Restraint toxic partner make you do their biddings, you ain’t a remote control. Remember that!
No one should be in a relationship that ones partner is toxic in all aspects. Whereby instead of bringing you up, they tend to bring you down instead.
This should never be allowed. Hence, if you experience such, it’s better you leave to regain your stability and mental health. If you tried talking to them,and they are not willing to change, kindly walk away and be happy again.