The most beautiful thing you can wear is confidence._______Blake Lively
Have you ever felt so alone? Have you ever felt so lost? Have you ever felt like you are not good enough? Have you ever felt you cannot get anything right? If you have felt this way about yourself, countless times. Then it shows you lack confidence in yourself and who you were created to be.
You need to have confidence in yourself at every stage of your life. That is the only way you can actually amount to much in any sphere of life you envision yourself to be. Without you trusting yourself and what you can do, then you will walk through life a complete failure. I don’t wish this for you, neither do I wish for myself and anyone who is dear to me.
Having confidence in yourself is not a trait with which you or anyone is born with. It is a trait that can be worked upon, polished, and refined over time. Life has a way of throwing different blows at you. Leaving you so helpless, and leaving you asking yourself if you deserve the type and kind of life you are living now.
Nothing in life comes easy, hence to achieve anything worthwhile, you really need to work on, and build your confidence. You can build your Confidence through the following ways;
1. Change your thoughts.
What are your thoughts about yourself when you are alone? Do you think thoughts of self-pity? Do you think thoughts of you are not good enough, and can never amount to much? Have you felt like those around you are better than you are? If you think these negative thoughts and much more, you need to change your thoughts now and focus on positive things about yourself.
You are worth more than you think, and you can accomplish so many things beyond your wildest dreams and imagination. Remember, as a man thinks in his heart so is he. Hence, to build your confidence, anytime a negative thought wants to hover in your mind, you tell yourself positive words such as; Yes, I can do this. I am capable of doing great things. I am intelligent and wise. Good things happen to me. And I can and am able to accomplish much greater things in my life.
2. Have control over your Emotions.
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Things don’t always go as one envisions. Most times plans and things come crashing down in the twinkle of an eye. Most times, in one fell swoop, your entire world would seem like it’s falling apart, and you don’t know what to do to stop such things from happening. And you start asking yourself if the bad things that happened were your fault, and you can’t help but wallow in self-pity, and lack of confidence in getting back on your feet.
Like I mentioned earlier, nothing comes easy. But you have to be tough, you have to not let your emotions get the better part of you. You need to stand your ground and tell yourself, you cannot allow what had happened to get the best of you. You need to remind yourself, that life has its ups and downs. Moreso, if it didn’t go well this time. It will get better with time if you don’t give up just yet.
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3. Do not let your past hold you down.
The past has a way of holding you back. Of reminding you of the things you didn’t and couldn’t get right in your past. The past has the tendencies of putting all the blames and things that didn’t go right before you, almost every time especially in moments you are trying to get over it, ad move on. But you know what, you are in the present now because of your past, and your beautiful future won’t be made possible if you don’t let go and bid your past mistakes goodbye forever. I know it’s easier said than done, but who says it’s not possible?
Letting go of your past is very possible if you can forgive yourself right now, and learn from whatever mistake that is presently holding you back, and tell yourself that your past does not define you. And you can work hard into picking up the pieces of your life, use them to start afresh by building that solid confidence in yourself. And watch your life change for the better in both the short and the long run.
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4. Be Outspoken.
One of the ways to build confidence is when you speak up, communicate about your feelings, and things you are not comfortable with. You cannot just suck everything people throw at you. Just because you want to look like a good person and not be tagged as someone bad. In life, not everyone is going to like you, so speak up when anyone hurts you. That way, you can release any bad vibe or emotions instead of hoarding the bad feelings and making them mess with your mental health and make you lose confidence in how you communicate with people around you.
5.Keep toxic people at arm’s length.
As earlier mentioned, not everyone is going to like you. Some folks just hate you for no good tangible reason. Such toxic people would want to talk you down and make you think less of who you are. These sets of people would always want to dig up your past and judge you over any little mistake you make. You don’t need such people, and also you can never build your confidence this way if you continue like this.
Therefore, one of the best gifts you could give to yourself when you build your confidence is keeping those who clearly do not want you to rise, and be a better you. The best you can do is keep them away from you as far as you can. This way, you surround yourself with people who truly care about your growth. You make mistakes in peace, you learn from them, and grow gradually and steadily.
6. Know your strengths and your weaknesses.
Know your strength and your weaknesses and work on them. Your strength be it writing, singing, cooking, drawing, whatever it might be is your ticket to greater things in your life if you can build on them, and believe in yourself that you can, and you will. . Your weakness perhaps might be procrastination, forgetfulness, indiscipline, etc, if you don’t work on them and overcome them, they will hinder you, and drag you back no matter how you try to pull forward and be a better you.
Hence, in order to succeed in your journey to build your confidence, you need to sit down and draft out what your strengths and weaknesses are. Come up with a plan on how to work more on your strengths, and find out things that trigger your weaknesses and overcome them as well. This way, you build your confidence, and in turn, transform your life.
7. Be grateful for every stage of your life.
Whatever you want to be in life, one way or another you need gratitude to aid in opening doors for you. You cannot be an ungrateful person who takes things and people for granted and go far in life.
To build your confidence, be grateful where you are at the moment, and be grateful for where you are going to or want to be. Tell yourself each day, that you are grateful that your confidence in yourself and your abilities are growing, and increasing. Your confidence will lift you up, and transform your life for the better.
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