What could be worse than your partner being emotionally unavailable to you? This is not only draining to think about, but it’s so saddening. The romantic relationship you have with your partner should be a two-way thing, whereby you and your partner have made a conscious effort to be there for each other come what may.
But when your partner seems emotionally unavailable to you and the relationship, this could be due to so many reasons. Yeah, being in a romantic relationship, doesn’t mean your partner’s life should revolve around you and the relationship alone. But that they should have a life and do other interesting things that would make them feel fulfilled, but not at the expense of making you feel so alone, and all by yourself.
But when your partner intentionally makes you feel so lonely, and one-sided in the relationship, then it is bad.
Therefore, below are signs you need to watch out for an emotionally unavailable partner;
1. Your partner is nowhere to be found when you need them.
Unforeseen things come up, and things might not always go as planned. But when this keeps happening every now and then. And your partner gives flimsy excuses of always being busy and not being able to keep up with important moments in your life, who ghost you for no good reason. Who takes ages to reply to your messages and even see you, then it’s a glaring sign he/she is not ready to commit to the Relationship. Therefore, your partner should be thoughtful enough to have you in mind despite their busy schedule, and not otherwise.
2. You are made to think you are the problem.
Most times when you air out to your partner about being lonely and feeling all left out, and being neglected. Your emotionally unavailable partner would want to put the blame on you for being over-reactive, for being overly passive, and trying to raise an issue where there is none. Instead of him/her listening to you on how you feel about their behavior, and ways they could adjust and make changes. When this happens too often, then it’s a sign you might be in a relationship with an emotionally unavailable partner, this could be so bad for your mental health.
3. You are left all dry intimately.
When your partner is emotionally unavailable to you and your relationship, there’s no way the romance in your relationship will be any different.
You’d realize that you are all left hanging, longing for a kiss, a warm touch, and a hug from your partner, but he or she will be nowhere to be found because they don’t feel the same way about you.
4. You put in all the work alone.
A romantic relationship should be a two-way thing or affair. It’s not fair on you when you are the only one who put in all the work and effort. Whereas your partner does not see a need to put in as much work as you do. When this habit from your partner becomes the other of the day, you need to sit down and ask yourself some very important personal questions.
5. Your partner does not see an issue with their behavior.
When someone truly loves you, he/she should retrace their steps or take steps into making some changes this is not because they are weak but because they want the relationship to work between the both of you.
Therefore, when your partner doesn’t see anything wrong in their behavior towards you, it shows they don’t care, hence him/her being distant and emotionally unavailable to you.
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6. Your entire being is showing you all the signs.
Your instincts are always the first to give you signs of both good and bad signs. But most yes because you are overwhelmed by your emotions you might not listen to it. Remember, instincts don’t like, hence when you have the feeling that your partner is gradually detaching from you and being emotionally unavailable, you need to stop, take a break, and find out where the problem is.