10 Ways on How to Be a Better Lover in Bed

Love-making with the right person whom you love, and who loves you in return is so amazing. Irrespective of if you are an expert in bed or if you are a novice, with the right person with whom you have the same connection intimately is heavenly.

But regardless of if you are a pro or a novice, it is paramount that you are a better lover in bed, this is important because it helps strengthen the love you and your lover have for each other.

Hence, if you are an expert, or if you are a novice, there is room for improvement anyway. Therefore, below are ways on how to be a better lover in bed.

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Ways on How to Be a Better Lover in Bed

Here are ways to be a better lover in bed;

1. Let Go of Your Insecurity

Are you afraid of what your lover might think or say about a part of your body you are not proud of? Hence, because of this, you are not free to even express all your intimate emotions when with your partner.

This is wrong, for if your partner truly loves you, he/she should be able to love and accept you for you.

If this is the opposite, then you shouldn’t be with a lover who doesn’t love your body for the way it is.

2. Know Your Partner’s Sexual Needs

Being a better lover to your partner also entails that you know what your partner’s sexual desires are. 

Do not just assume things, this is where a whole lot of lovers get it wrong. You being a better lover to your partner, requires you also be unselfish and ask your partner what he/she likes, what he/she would like you to improve on, etc.

3. Do Not Neglect Your Own Pleasure

Inasmuch as you want to be the better lover to your partner, it is important that you do not neglect your own pleasure while at it.

Ensure to also, tell your partner what turns you on, how you like being kissed, touched, etc.

4. Take It Easy

With regards to foreplay, take as much time as is needed. “Most lovers benefit from taking it easy.  The core objective of foreplay is so that the both of you enjoy each other to the fullest.

Do not rush the foreplay or the oral sex, or the penetration, take each moment easy and enjoy every bit of it.

This way, your partner would look forward to having an interesting intimate moment with you, and not fantasize about having it with someone else.

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5. Talk to Your Partner

Talking to your partner about his/her sexual fantasies would actually help you and your partner understand each other’s sexual fantasies better.

Does your partner love being kissed all over, or does he/her love less foreplay? The knowledge you derive from your conversation with your partner would help you know what he/she expects from you.

6. Act As a Learner

Perhaps, you are a pro when it comes to sexual intimacy, you need to remember that, it is important that you act as a learner by trying new things and not being streamlined to just doing the same thing over and over again.

You could change sex positions, change the number of times you make love weekly, you could use vibrators to help your lover reach climax easily, use sex toys to add spice into your relationship, and ask you lover what are the things they would like guys to try out, and spice up your love life?.

7. Talk to Your Partner During Intimate Sessions

What could be worse than just lying like a log of wood and allowing your partner to do his/her thing while you are just a spectator? This kills the vibe of your relationship.

To be a better lover in bed, you need to be free to talk to your partner by asking him/her if the way you are going about the whole touching, kissing, penetration, oral sex is being enjoyed or not?

This would help you know if you are going too fast, or if you both are on the right track, or if you need to try something different.

8. Ensure to Prepare Your Partners Mind

Prior to when you want to go down with your partner, you could leave short notes, be very romantic, ask your partner what he/she would like you both to try in bed, and make the love moment sweet, and passionate.

Doing this prior to when you and your partner want to be intimate, would actually make your partner see you as a better love, and will always be looking forward to a mind-blowing passionate moment with you.

9. Be Naughty

Do not wait until you are in the mood before you sex chat, or share your sexual fantasies with your partner.

During the day, you could send your lover love chats, making him/her feel relaxed, tell your lover how beautiful/handsome they are, and a whole lot of other sweet and sincere things you love about your partner.

This would actually keep you both closer intimately, and long to have passionate moments with each other.

10. Live a Healthy Lifestyle

To be a better lover to yourself and your partner, requires you living that most healthy lifestyle that you can.

This requires you eating well, exercising, and keeping a good mental, and emotional life. Remember, that you cannot be a better lover in bed if you are not healthy.

Foreplay, oral sex, penetration, having orgasm, requires a whole lot of energy from you. And also, do not overly work yourself out because you want to be the champ, always remember to keep a balance.

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The pathway to a rewarding sexual life is a continuous improvement process.

We have outlined ways on how to be a better lover in bed, but as said earlier it would require hard work.

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